LOVE मैरिज या ARRANGED मैरिज

SUHANA SAFAR – Life is a journey! We all are in a journey of the life although we are on different ways and different tracks to reach the destination which is ultimately same for all human beings! We get life and visa from God to travel various aspects and events of life and we start to enjoy our trip with the people whom we meet during this journey. We meet so many people whether they are our blood relatives or just a Pedestrian who is passing by from us! There are so many people who touch our hearts and become very special companion of the life journey! Today, on the platform of Suhana Safar, I am sharing one major and blessed life event of life – Marriage!

You might hear the most spoken idiom “Marriages are made in heaven!” This is very common sentence which people use when they talk about any individual’s marriage. Though Marriages are made in heaven, we are supposed to discover the partner on earth! In some cases the individual finds the soul mate according to the dream and in some cases the family or match-maker helps to find out appropriate partner. Generally when individuals  find the partners themselves and decide to be married with each other called "Love Marriage" and when Family choose the partner for any individual called "Arrange Marriage!"

Love Marriage v/s Arranged Marriage

Very nice topic to be discussed here i.e. LOVE मैरिज या ARRANGED मैरिज? Which one is best and long lasting? The question is really tough to answer, let’s try to find the answer in this discussion.

Love Marriage: People say love is blind as love doesn’t see the age, caste, education, families and status of the opposite person so that when an individual see a person who is same as according to the dream, love feeling take place in the hearts. Love starts with attraction then liking, proposing, expressing, meetings and finally two individuals come with the decision to spend life together as husband and wife as they have understood themselves and know the expectations of each other. It is not the end of story; actually the story starts now as they require the permission to marry each other from their parents or guardians! Sometimes it becomes easy if both are from same caste and levels and if differs, the test begins! Test of love, test of patience and test of relation! If they pass these all circumstances, they would have best married life as now they know the value of love and relation. It is not guaranteed that the problems will not be raised in love marriage in fact love marriage requires so many arrangements! Love requires arrangements and adjustments in term of acceptance of; families, background, customary, economic situations, role and responsibilities, way of living and the most important the thinking and status of partner. The fact is, she partner has to arrange and adjust the most of arrangements after marriage. In short, Love requires positive arrangement for happy life ahead, but it takes time.

Arranged Marriage: Arrange means to set a marriage of two unknown persons who even they don’t know each other properly! Generally arranged marriage process is start with setting up the meetings of two families and especially for two individuals who are going to be bounded with relation of husband and wife! These meetings are platform to discuss their lives, needs and likes-dislikes etc. If both the person finds each other as perfect match and like outer appearance, get engaged and start to know more closely. Sometimes, the period between engagement and marriage is very long so that both the persons may have more time to know more and understand each other but in many cases this period is too short and in no time they got married after engagement! In this type of marriage they have to love this arrangement, it is true that the love neither comes with force nor you insist your partner to love you! It’s come with understanding and care. If any couple married on arranged basis, they require love! But, it takes time!

Let me conclude the topic with my personal view; “If you can arrange your love and adjust all situations after marriage, go with “Love Marriage” or if you are able to find love and love the arrangement of marriage, go with “Arrange Marriage.”  The thing is in arrange marriage you have to wait for love and in love marriage you have to wait for arrangement! True! Both formats require passion of love, care and commitment.

Sony Entertainment Television is going to telecast new series LOVE मैरिज या ARRANGED मैरिज from August 6th at 8:30 PM. We shall know more about this topic on Sony; Wait more for few days...

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